The King of Kings will not let you down sweet daughter. Reading in Numbers this past week…I know it is one of those books we tend to skip over. But, I came upon a list of all the places the Israelites had been on their journey through the wilderness. I was struck by this truth…God saw every point of their journey. He saw them, and He was with them. That sweet truth comforts my heart. Sometimes it feels like we are walking through our own wilderness…and He sees. He sees us and He walks with us through every single place we travel on this journey. The King of Kings will not let you down sweet daughter. He sees each place this journey has taken you, and He is right there beside you. You are a daughter of the King. You are His prized possession. He will be faithful.
It has been about three years since the Lord really transformed my heart, and gave me a passion for His Word. Through these past three years I have gone through many seasons, and my time in God’s Word has changed throughout each season.
We use a lot of excuses about why we don’t read Scripture, I know that I did for a long time. I have found that reading God’s Word can be accomplished no matter what season we are in, but it may look different in different seasons of life. There may be certain seasons where we have to be flexible and give ourselves grace when spending time in the Word doesn’t look like an instagram moment.
1. Think through your day realistically, and decide on a time that works best for your to be in the Word…and then be flexible.
It is important to be realistic when planing when to have your quiet time. If your children wake up at 5am, it probably won’t be practical to get up and spend time in Scripture before they wake up. And if you are ready to fall asleep after dinner, an evening quiet time is probably not for you. Don’t feel the need to structure your day and quiet time the way that others do. This will probably just end up in frustration, and a plan that doesn’t actually work. Think through your day and be realistic.
2. Evaluate your most common distractions, and then come up with a plan of attack to combat them.
What distracts you while you are trying to get in the Word? Identify the things that are distractions and find a way to combat them. If your phone is a distraction…put it in another room. If email is a distraction, shut down your computer. If things pop in your mind to distract you…keep your planner or notepad close by to jot things down so you can focus.
In busy seasons, it can be hard to have quiet time, and you may have just a few minutes. I have found that having things set out and ready to go helps a ton. I like to keep my Bible, Be Still Journal, pens/highlighters, and any other resources I am using on a tray that I can easily move to the place I have my quiet time. This way, when I am ready, I don’t have to go hunting down the things that I need, and I can dig into the Word when I have the opportunity.
4. Don’t worry if your quiet time doesn’t look like you think it should.
Your quiet time might not include a cup of coffee, a candle, and fresh flowers…and that is ok. Your quiet time may take place in the carpool line, on your lunch break, or at the kitchen island while your children eat breakfast. Spending time with the Lord is more important than having your quiet time look just right.
It isn’t an easy command. It is easy to give thanks when things go just as we would like, but when life hands us the opposite of what we desire, it is hard to have a heart of Thanksgiving. If you are anything like me, it is often easier to complain and feel discontent about your circumstances, than it is to be thankful. You may not understand. You may feel like you have spent so long waiting. You may be confused. You may be wondering what God’s will is for you. I can tell you that right now, no matter what you are facing…His will for you is to give thanks. Give thanks right where you are for everything He has given you. Give thanks for all the times His way was so much better than your way. Give thanks for who He is.
I get asked a lot of questions, and sent a lot of prayer requests, and this one is one of the most common. It comes in different forms, but it comes back to women who desire for their husband to hunger for the Word, and passionately follow the Lord. I recruited my husband Jeremy for help with this post, because I knew he would have some great insight into things that we do as women that help, and things that don’t.
This has to be the first thing on the list, because at the end of the day, it is not the things that we do that will help grow our husbands walk with the Lord. The work of sanctification is from the Holy Spirit alone. If you are anything like me, you know that prayer should be the first defense, but sometimes we get so frustrated with a situation that we are more prone to whine or be sad about it, then we are to genuinely lay it down in front of the Lord daily. Pray and don’t stop praying for your husband. No matter where your husbands spiritual walk is, he needs your prayers. The biggest support we can give our husband is praying for him.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Focus on your own walk with God
It is so easy to point out the shortcomings of others. If you wish your husband would be in the Word more, make sure that you are cultivating your own walk with God, and not just pointing out his weakness. Many women are frustrated with their husbands lack of time in the Word and prayer, but they also aren’t cultivating their own time with God. I love I Peter 3:1 that says: “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives.” Though this verse may be referring to an unbeliever, the principle holds true. Men (and really all people) are encouraged to do right much more from the encouragement and example of others than they are by being nagged or disrespected.
Share what God is teaching you. Not in a way that is judgmental or trying to guilt him. Share your heart and what you are learning in the Word. Don’t be afraid to let him know about what God is convicting you about. Your humility will do more to encourage him, then you pretending that his sin or shortcomings are worse than your own. We all have different struggle, and their is something beautiful about the openness that we can share in marriage.
Don’t expect your husbands walk with God to look just like yours. We are all different and our time with the Lord is going to look different. I could journal page after page, but my husband just doesn’t enjoy journaling..and that is ok. There is no formula that works for everyone, or that is more spiritual than another. Don’t judge your husbands spiritual life because it doesn’t look just like yours.
You are not the Holy Spirit
The Holy Spirit works in the hearts of believers to bring conviction and encouragement. But, you as the wife are not the Holy Spirit. Sometimes we think that we can say just the right thing or nag
Surround yourself with good friends
For yourself, surround yourself with women who will encourage you to love, encourage, and respect your husband, and not those that will encourage you to nag or criticize your husband.
Many times when a man is struggling with spending time with the Lord, he knows it. I know that I am aware of the times in my life when I neglect to spend time with the Lord, and he is probably aware that this is something that he should be better at. If he has been open with you that this is a struggle…be a safe place for him to come too. Ask him what you can do to help, and then be ready to do it. Could you help him by making breakfast so that he has more time in the mornings? Can you watch the kids so that he can head to a coffee shop for a bit of alone time with the Lord? Could you make dinner a bit earlier so that there is time for family devotions? Would an audio Bible help him on a long commute? How would your husband react if instead of nagging him about all the things that he should be doing, you asked him how you could help him?
These are just a few ways to encourage your husbands walk with the Lord. I would love to hear your suggestions as well. Leave a comment here or over on instagram, and join the conversation.
Faith is Deliberate confidence in the character of God, whose ways you may not understand at the time.
Today, lets choose to trust Him. Because, even when we don’t understand, we can know who He is, and we know that HE is good.
He is good and He does good. He has never failed us, and we can trust in His sovereign plan. His character, and everything in Him is good toward His people…we can trust His ways.